Consider, you might be devaluating another entity's personal desire, when it is opposed to your personal desire. Why? Are you omniscient? Are you omnipresent? Are you a master looking for a slave?
You may tell your self, that it is in the best interest of that entity, when you compel that entity to obey your will. You most likely are wrong.
You are one of many, who have a particular point of view. Your view is not the only one. To assume you know best for another, is an example of ignorance.
It is the interactions, or conflicts, that exchange condition, information, and experience. The best you can do, is to explain your point of view. This also implies that you will listen to another point of view. It works both ways. It is a double edge sword. One moment you may be a teacher, the next moment, you may be a student.
All conflict is an effect, from a cause. That cause is usually based in a difference of desire. Desire can evolve from fear, and everything in between, to pleasure. Likewise, from ignorance to wisdom. Choices are made in each entity, in every particle of creation.
Respect is not another entity performing as per your desire. Love is not another entity performing as per your desire. Slavery, is another entity performing as per your desire.
When entity #1 is constrained, or restrained, and cannot easily exit the close proximity to entity #2, for whatever reason, and entity #1 bends its will to that of entity #2, a claim of authority over the area is usually given as the reason for entity #1 becoming submissive. This often takes the form of "house" rules, or "when you are under my roof..", or "if you want to continue to work here..", or "Police! Get on the ground NOW!".
Respect, is you letting another choose for itself. It is not manipulating the perception to force a narrow predetermined selection of possible choices. It is not covering up the facts, nor twisting them to suit your personal desire. It is not lying to your self or another. It is mutual. It is a prerequisite for cooperation. It is a prerequisite for becoming friends, as well as lovers.
It is common, for dependents to become submissive, or demanding. In a submissive condition, the dependent feels devalued, by the Money Maker. The Money Maker is not showing any respect. In a demanding condition, that demanding dependent has devalued the Money Maker that provides for the dependent. The Dependent is not showing any respect.
The societal/environmental conditions, that all are born into, are the result of previous choices, made by previous generations.
Every present moment, new choices are made. Those can be the same as past choices, or they can be different choices. This is how the present moment can remain the same, or become something different. Its a choice, made by each individual, and the group.
It appears to be common, that people confuse a lack of respect, with opposing desires. That moment is when frustration peaks, and the conflict turns to yelling, changing the topic of conversation, or potential violence. The lack of communication, on multiple levels, fuels the conflict, with sprinkles of ignorance reverberating on both sides.
The failure to take into consideration the conflict of desire, the societal/environmental conditions, and communication barrier, is a sign that a lot of learning is required, to comprehend the context, that has led up to the present condition.
Main Entry: re-spect
Etymology:Middle English, from Latin respectus, literally, act of looking back, from respicere to look back, regard, from re- + specere to look — more at SPY
1 : a relation or reference to a particular thing or situation *remarks having respect to an earlier plan*
2 : an act of giving particular attention : CONSIDERATION
3 a : high or special regard : ESTEEM b : the quality or state of being esteemed c plural : expressions of respect or deference *paid our respects*
4 : PARTICULAR, DETAIL *a good plan in some respects*
–in respect of chiefly British : with respect to : CONCERNING
–in respect to : with respect to : CONCERNING
–with respect to : with reference to : in relation to
Main Entry: respect
Function: transitive verb
1 a : to consider worthy of high regard : ESTEEM b : to refrain from interfering with *please respect their privacy*
2 : to have reference to : CONCERN
synonyms see REGARD